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Weekly Horoscopes for the Week of October 17 by the Cut

Famous Libra Angela Lansbury, who would have been 97 today.
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Late Saturday night, Saturn – planet of fear, limitations, and responsibility – will finally end its nearly five-month retrograde. During this period, you’ve likely faced challenges, been forced to reckon with uncomfortable truths about yourself. The universe has called all your bluffs, demanded you make good on your promises, disputed the flattering stories you tell yourself. Now that the retrograde period is over, it’s time to put what you’ve learned to use. The weird difficulties of the past half-year weren’t for naught. They were leading you forward, teaching you to be honest and brave.

Right now, your life is just too much to bear. Work is probably overwhelming, your relationships strained, or your moods too intense to deal with. Consider, this week, that a large part of this stress and unhappiness you’re experiencing comes from having taken on more than you can handle on your own. As much as you value your independence, and as much as you hate to feel like a drain on others, sometimes, the only way to make it through is by asking for help. You’re only human, and humans need each other. Don’t try to go it alone.

Recently, it seems that the only way to maintain your close relationships is to make yourself “easier” to love. To be treated with tenderness or looked at with desire, you’ve found it necessary to first hide the parts of yourself that are difficult – your stubbornness, your contradictions. But this week, it’ll become clearer than ever that this trade-off isn’t worth it. Indeed, it’s not even necessary. You’ll find that your connections are strengthened when you stand up for yourself, when you insist that you’re worthy, just as you are.

You cannot be everything to everyone. You know this to be true. Even so, you will sometimes find yourself striving for the admiration or approval of all who cross your path – acquaintances and strangers alike. This week, as every week, there’s a good chance you’re going to be disliked or misunderstood by certain people, but it’s your job to keep this in perspective. What loss is it, after all, to be unappreciated by those whom you neither respect or appreciate in return? You don’t have to be universally adored. Focus on the people that matter to you.

When you’re feeling down on yourself, you tend to look for reassurance from others. Your life is full of people who deeply admire you and know you’re capable of marvels, and who are eager to tell you so. The trouble is, external validation can’t sustain you on its own. Encouraging as it can be, it’s no substitute for self-belief. So this week, exercise confidence: If you take calculated, small risks, they’re likely to pay off. Gradually, you can take bigger ones, until you’re reminded how powerful you really are, until you believe again.

You’ve been feeling overburdened by work, by complicated emotions, by intense doubt about yourself and your place in the world. There’s value in struggling with challenging tasks and difficult questions, but not to the exclusion of everything else. Frivolity and leisure cannot be your whole life, but they shouldn’t be absent from it, either. This week, make a point of taking one action that does nothing to get you closer to your goals or make the world better, that has no purpose at all other than to bring you pleasure. For at least a brief moment, make rest your only job.

The most minor of tasks have been unmanageable of late, and when even the small stuff feels impossible, you begin to question your bigger goals. You’ve started wondering whether it’s time to give up – on a project, a relationship, a dream for your future. The road appears too bumpy, the cost of continued perseverance too great. Once in a while the wisest course of action is to stop fighting against the current, and if you’ve firmly made up your mind to quit, then go for it. But if you’re on the fence, then stick it out this week. Circumstances may yet change. Don’t give up on yourself.

The trouble with being consistently helpful or competent or understanding toward others is that periodically they begin to take these traits for granted. Your kindness starts to seem so natural that they lose sight of the effort it takes. People forget that they ought to reciprocate. The solution, this week, isn’t to stop being supportive of those you love (at least, not unless they give you a good reason to), but to speak up for yourself and your needs. Be more demanding than you have been. Make some noise. It might be the only way to get what you need right now.

Lately, you’ve been experiencing intense regret for all the times you were uncool, unsophisticated, and taken advantage of. There’s so much you wish you’d done differently, and so much you wish you’d known sooner. It’s hard not to feel that life would be totally different today if only you hadn’t been so naïve in the past, if you had made wiser choices. This week, try to remember that you’re supposed to make mistakes, to be embarrassed, to change your mind and then change it again. Being wrong occasionally won’t ruin your life. It is life, and you’re doing fine.

These last months, the world has caused you to reevaluate yourself and your life. Maybe you found that you’re weirder or wilder or sharper than you believed. Perhaps you realized that the goal you’ve been single-mindedly pursuing isn’t what you want at all. It’s destabilizing to question your identity, but it won’t destroy you. The key, this week, is to remain honest with yourself. You can’t unsee what you’ve seen, nor pretend you don’t know what you do. Don’t ignore your insights. Let them guide you toward a new (and ultimately more fulfilling) phase.

It’s challenging to figure out exactly how much support you can rely on others to give you, and how much you need to do for yourself. Because however much your friends love you and want to be there for you, you’ve found that they don’t always have the time or capacity or insight to offer the care you need. They also have their own lives and problems to tend to. This week, your instinct might be to swing all the way in the opposite direction, to resolve to go it alone, but that’s not realistic either. Even when it’s imperfect, accept the love others have for you. It makes your life better.

You’ve been feeling trapped by the ordinariness of your life. Your daily routine is unsatisfying; you want adventure, change, for your time on earth to matter. At the same time, you suspect that’s unrealistic, that you’ll have to get used to disappointment. But it isn’t true. Don’t resign yourself to unhappiness. Rather, use your imagination, your intellect, your force of will, to create the life you desire. It’s difficult, not impossible. You’ve got all the skills and courage you need, so have faith in yourself.

Up to a certain point, negative emotions can be useful. It isn’t wrong to feel guilty when you’ve spoken thoughtlessly, or gotten the facts wrong, or accidentally hurt someone. But every so often (like this week) it’s all too easy to be swallowed up by shame. Instead of driving you to be better, or to repair frayed relationships, it makes you want to retreat entirely, to hide yourself away. Try to remember that everyone does and says things they regret. You aren’t alone in that. Far from it. You’re trying your hardest to do right by others, and they know it and love you for it.

Read the weekly horoscopes for the week of October 10. The weekly horoscopes for the week of October 24 will be online next Sunday.

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